Have You Ever Considered What You Want At Your Funeral?
I want horses wearing plumes at my funeral
Make sure your loved ones know your funeral wishes.
Have you had that conversation yet? Do your friends and family know what you want to happen at your funeral? Do you know what they want at their funeral? It’s time to talk.
Discussing what happens when you’ve died could save your loved ones difficult decisions when the time comes.
Cremation or burial? Horses, flowers, hymns, musicians, pall bearers and a huge celebration of life at the best hotel in town, or a simple ceremony with a quiet gathering afterwards at home?
Ensuring your loved ones know what kind of funeral you want saves them a lot of heartache later.
So have the conversation with them, or write down your wishes and ensure at least two people know where to find that information.
Knowing exactly what Mom wanted made arranging her funeral so much more straightforward at a time when it was difficult to think straight.
With death certificates to organise, organisations to inform, finances to sort through, wills to find, possibly pets to look after, let alone the grief to live with, knowing funeral wishes can be a great relief.
Here at Franklin and Hawkins Family Funeral Directors we have useful information leaflets to help guide you and your Family through this process, including how to gently approach the topic of your, or someone else’s, funeral.
Things that are helpful to consider are;
Where you would like your funeral to be held at.
Whether you want a burial or cremation.
Do you want a religious, humanist or totally non-religious service.
What songs, music or readings you would like.
Do you want flowers, and if so what are your favourite.
What clothes you would like to wear.
What you would like your guests to wear.
Would you like a collection for a particular charity.
Do you want a family led or humanist funeral? A woodland burial, a shroud or a coffin made from cardboard or wicker?
Are you imagining mourners wearing black or your favourite colours, Do you want donations for a favorite charity, or flowers to be laid somewhere particular afterwards?
Are you happy for family members to be pall bearers if they wish, or to do readings?
It is a lot to think about, but easier now than your relatives having to second-guess your wishes after your death.
Include ideas for your wake too, do you want people to celebrate your Life with a big party or something quieter like afternoon tea at your home.
People will want somewhere to go after the funeral to share happy memories of your life.
Perhaps you want to donate your body to medical science, if so ensure you have told your family and GP and completed the appropriate consent forms. Your body can be returned to your family for later cremation or burial so it is still important to make a funeral plan.
You may wish to organise pre-payment of your funeral, and include a line in your notes that states you fully understand that some of your wishes may not be possible.
If your wishes change, such as your choice of music, update your funeral notes –and tell your friends and relatives.